#humans #relationships Created at 2022-12-27 # [Anonymous feedback](https://www.admonymous.co/louis030195) # [[Epistemic status]] #shower-thought Last modified date: 2022-12-27 Commit: 0 # Related - [[Dependency]] # TODO > [!TODO] TODO # Attachment  > Attachment is self-deception, it is an escape from the hollowness of the self. The things to which we are attached—property, people, ideas—become all- important, for without the many things which fill its emptiness, the self is not. The fear of not being makes for possession; and fear breeds illusion, the bondage to conclusions. Conclusions, material or ideational, prevent the fruition of intelligence, the freedom in which alone reality can come into being; and without this freedom, cunning is taken for intelligence. > ~ [[Krishnamurti|Jiddu Krishnamurti]]  >Why do we depend? Psychologically, inwardly, we depend on a belief, on a system, on a philosophy; we ask another for a mode of conduct; we seek teachers who will give us a way of life which will lead us to some hope, some happiness. So we are always, are we not, searching for some kind of dependence, security. >~ [[Krishnamurti|Jiddu Krishnamurti]]  >Being in a state of confusion, we want someone to get us out of that confusion. So, we are always concerned with how to escape or avoid the state in which we are. In the process of avoiding that state, we are bound to create some kind of dependence, which becomes our authority. If we depend on another for our security, for our inward wellbeing, there arise out of that dependence innumerable problems, and then we try to solve those problems— the problems of attachment. >~ [[Krishnamurti|Jiddu Krishnamurti]]