#conversation #humans # [[Epistemic status]] #shower-thought #to-digest # Related - [[Conversation]] - [[Philosophy/Humans/Social hacks/Social hacks]] - [[Philosophy/Humans/Conversation alignment]] # TODO > [!TODO] TODO # Conversation narcissism Bob: "I have X disease, I'll die tomorrow" Alice: "I'm so sorry, I had a flu once on a winter day, and my grandma did a warm tea for me, then I sat near the fireplace, blabla..." Here Alice do conversation narcissism, we have this kind of automation in our nature to relate things to our own [[The Map is not the Territory|map of the territory]], we can prevent this though. Probably seeking attention and moving the attention towards oneself was useful for [[Evolution|evolution]] so it's something we keep trying to get. Conversation narcissism is a powerful strategy in non-iterated games, i.e. if Bob go to a party and meet a bunch of people that he will never see again, he can try hard to gather the attention on himself. On the other hand when you [[Play long term games with long term people]] you want [[Conversation alignment]] and for this you need to balance the attention equitably between every members of the conversation. ## Listening is hard Listening is really hard. I'm not saying that to make you feel better, although i hope it does make you feel better," he says. "It's not hard because of our smart phones. It's not hard. Because we're distracted. It's hard because human beings, the species homo sapien, does not listen # External links Similar topic links: [[Conversation narcissism]] [[Conversation]] [[Social hacks]] [[The inefficiency of real-time communication]] [[Conversation alignment]]