#dating #humans #relationships #mating #females #males #communication #compassion #evolution #psychology Created at 240223 # [Anonymous feedback](https://www.admonymous.co/louis030195) # [[Epistemic status]] #shower-thought Last modified date: 240223 Commit: 0 # Related - [[Philosophy/Humans/Romance/Dating]] - [[Philosophy/Humans/Relationship pruning]] - [[Philosophy/Humans/Relationship divergence]] - [[Philosophy/Humans/Power dynamics]] - [[Philosophy/Humans/Sex]] # TODO > [!TODO] TODO # Push and pull The dynamic of push and pull in relationships is a common one. Push-pull dynamics often involve a partner pushing away the other person, either by creating distance or avoiding the other person altogether, and the other person trying to pull the partner back in. This can be seen in relationships where one person is more invested than the other, one person is emotionally unavailable, or one person is trying to maintain control over the relationship. In these situations, the push-pull dynamic can lead to feelings of insecurity and uncertainty in both partners. It is important to recognize these dynamics in a relationship and to work together to create a more balanced connection. This game of push and pull serves an evolutionary purpose. It's a way of testing the other person's commitment and loyalty and ensuring that the relationship remains strong. This dynamic can also be seen in animal behavior, such as when a mate is being chased by a predator and the mate responds by running away and then returning to the chase. This behavior is a way of testing the predator's commitment to the chase and ensuring that the mate is safe. Females and males have different advantages and disadvantages from mating so it make sense, that they have different strategies when it comes to push and pull dynamics. Females are more likely to be the ones to initiate the push-pull dynamics, because they have the most to lose in a relationship if the mate leaves. Males, on the other hand, may be more likely to be the ones to pull away, because they put more value on their independence. No matter the gender dynamics, push-pull dynamics can be damaging and destructive. It is important to be aware of these dynamics and to work together to create a more balanced connection. Communication, understanding and compassion are essential for any relationship to thrive.