#social #humans #dating # [[Epistemic status]] #shower-thought # Dating #to-digest >Two different things wanteth the true man: danger and diversion. Therefore wanteth he woman, as the most dangerous plaything. >~ [[Nietzsche]] ## [[There are two answers to this question, as to all questions: the poet's and the scholar's. Which one do you want first?]] - Poet [[2011 - Osho - Courage the Joy of Living Dangerously]] [[Louis/Love]] [[Sex is nonlinear]] ## [[There are two answers to this question, as to all questions: the poet's and the scholar's. Which one do you want first?]] - Scientist [[Philosophy/Psychology/Sex]] [[Philosophy/Humans/Love]] [[Sexual selection]] >Female competition occurs almost exclusively in pairbonded species, such as many birds and a few mammals. In those cases, females try to gain or defend a long-term tie with a male. Our own species is a good example: research by David Buss has demonstrated that whereas men get most upset at the thought of their wife or girlfriend having sex with another man, women dislike most the thought that their husband or boyfriend actually loves another woman, regardless of whether or not sex occurred. >~ [[Frans de de Waal - Chimpanzee Politics]] >When two people are on a date and want to sleep with each other, the conversation will often move towards but never explicitly discuss having sex. The two may discuss going back to the place of one of theirs, with a different explicit reason discussed (e.g. "to have a drink"), even if both want to have sex. >~ [[Ben Pace - The Costly Coordination Mechanism of Common Knowledge - LessWrong|The Costly Coordination Mechanism of Common Knowledge - LessWrong]]