### Desire & Shadow — 2025 Mode - **Use**: map hidden drivers and integrate them safely; reduce sabotage, increase intimacy and agency. - **Timeboxes**: 90s jot, 5–7m share, 3m follow‑ups; 3 rounds. - **Consent**: red/yellow/green; opt‑out anytime; confidentiality assumed. ### calibration - What topic feels charged but alive for you right now? Why? - What question are you afraid I’ll ask because you might answer honestly? - What boundary do you want honored tonight? ### 1) shadow inventory (private → share selectively) - What do you want that you’re embarrassed to want? - When do you choose intensity over intimacy? What need are you meeting? - Which situation predictably triggers your worst pattern? What’s the payoff? - What belief about yourself becomes true when you self‑sabotage? ### 2) desire mapping (clear language) - List three desires in each domain: body, mind, status, money, love, play. - For each, name: requestable behavior, boundary, aftercare needed. - Which desires are high‑signal (few words, strong body yes)? Which are performative? ### 3) patterns → interventions - Pattern: “I escalate for novelty.” Intervention: pre‑commit to 24h pause before changes that affect relationships. - Pattern: “I hide needs.” Intervention: 2‑step ask (preview + explicit request) within 24h. - Pattern: “I fawn.” Intervention: write a 2‑sentence boundary script and rehearse. - Add your own: Pattern ____ → Intervention ____. ### 4) boundaries, consent, repair - Early boundary you want respected this month is ____. - “Clear no” sentence you’ll actually use: ____. - Rupture protocol: name impact → own part → specific repair ask → timebox. ### 5) intensity vs intimacy tradeoffs - In the last 30 days, where did you pick intensity over intimacy? Was it worth the price? - What slow practice reliably increases intimacy for you? - Define one rule to cap intensity without killing aliveness. ### 6) 30‑day experiments (pick one) - Desire reps: one explicit request/day; log sensation before/after. - Shadow surf: when triggered, label part (“protector/persecutor/child”), 10 breaths, then act. - Repair training: initiate one repair within 24h of rupture each week. - Energy audit: track inputs that increase desire without chaos. ### 7) commitments (one each) - Do less: ____ (pattern you’ll starve) - Do more: ____ (behavior that feeds real desire) - Non‑negotiable boundary: ____ ### 8) meta - What truth do you want mirrored back if you drift? - What question should we add next time? tags: #human-prompt #prompts #social-game #bigtalk